I figured I could locate something so boring at 3am, that I would be forced into sleep quickly. Re-runs usually do that for me. Unfortunately, even a few of those didn’t seem to be working.
After channel surfing for what seemed to be ions, I finally dozed off while watching some movie that I cannot for the life of me remember.
What I do remember was that it was in black and white, which means that it was really old. Other than that I recall that instead of actually falling into a dead sleep, I fell just enough asleep where I could still hear the dialog in my head.
In one particular scene the male lead asked his female counterpart an important question. He asked, “give me one good reason why we should be together?” and her reply, ” I can give you 100!”
That thought somehow sunk into my subconscious and when I awoke a few hours later, this dialog was stuck in my head.
So I figured this must have some meaning or purpose, right?
Well, if you know what it means please clue me in, OK?
So since by now you probably realize that I am clueless, I figured I would try to make sense of this all by writing this post. So today I will attempt to give you 50 reasons to be in a relationship. Hey, I’m a guy so even 50 is a stretch.
The female in the movie said she could give him 100 reason, right? She said this probably 50 years ago, today I should be able to do at least 50, or at least I hope I can. Wish me luck!
1) Because no one wants to be alone:
That’s right, you’ll meet some guys who profess that they enjoy being single. Some women say this same line of B.S. They’ll go on about how happy they are to be alone, and how they can do whatever they please without asking for anyone’s permission.
This lie sounds good on the surface, however if they really enjoy being alone so much, why in the hell are they calling you all the time asking to go hang out? Any relationship, well almost any (excluding abusive ones) is so much better than going home to an empty apartment to a cat/dog.
Now don’t get me wrong, I like animals but being in the company of someone you can talk and laugh with is so much more fun.
2) The special way they look at you:
Ever watch the way your friends significant other looks at them? The love is in the eyes. You can tell a lot about how a man feels about a woman just by the way he looks at her. You know something else? Women know it, they can feel his eyes gazing over them and they glow in the knowledge of being loved.
3) Missing someone:
Knowing that the person you love may be gone for whatever reason, but knowing that they will soon be back in your arms again! The anticipation is overwhelming.
4) The way they smell:
When you’re with someone they have a special smell, a scent. It can be a certain cologne, perfume or body lotion they wear. After they’re gone and you lay your head on your pillow and that scent takes you back in time.
I had a girlfriend in College and years later I walked into a Department Store and caught the scent of the perfume she used to wear. It was like I had traveled back in time, well until my wife interrupted me and asked me about the silly grin I had on my face.
5) Breaking up:
Not permanently! But those break-up where you have some silly little disagreement and you go to your place and your significant other to theirs. You both swear that you won’t call one another again, however you both jump at your cell phones with each ring hoping its the other.
Finally, one of you gives in and calls and the other is relieved because they were on the verge of calling anyway. Then you make up, promising to never let a simple misunderstanding come between you again, ever. Then you know what comes next?
6) Make-up Sex:
I don’t even have to explain this one do I? Some people pick arguments and break-up just to get this reward. If you’re one of those people, you’re sick, but if it works, more power to you!
7) Short vacations together:
There’s nothing like taking a short vacation with someone you love. Ever been to a Bed and Breakfast in Vermont in the Fall? How about driving up the Pacific Coast Highway to Monterrey, California and spending the weekend in Carmel?
Taking short trips to places neither of you have ever been is fun and exciting. It allows you the opportunity to talk, just the two of you and explore new places together.
8) Having someone to go to the movies with:
Yeah, you can go to the movies with your friends if you want to. However, I get the feeling that theaters and Drive-ins were actually made for lovers. How else could you explain the necessity to create horror movies? Besides that, these places are dimly lit and the seats are very close together so that you can hold hands or cuddle in the dark.
Note: Anything more than cuddling could get you thrown out, so be careful.
9) It makes it easier to turn down guys you didn’t want to go out with anyway:
Thanks for asking, but I’m in a relationship. No harm, no foul. You just let him down very easily without hurting his feelings. He is able to walk away with his dignity still intact.
10) Someone listens to you:
Some days we go through life feeling as though we’re invisible. It’s like no one can see or hear us and its enough to make you want to scream. However, when you’re in a relationship you know that at least one person on this planet cares what you think and is willing to listen.
No not the ones you see in the garden. The ones that float around in your stomach when you are with the person you love. In the beginning I have to admit they can seem more like birds than butterflies, but its all good. Don’t you agree?
12) The possibilities:
The idea that this could be your last first date or kiss for that matter. Building a new relationship is fun and exciting especially when you are positive that there is a future for it.
13) Starting over:
Ok, so your last relationship failed. A new start is generally what the doctor ordered. You should have learned a lot with your last mate. With a new mate you can put that experience into good use. There is nothing like getting a fresh new start in love.
14) Caring for someone:
It has been said that being in love is when the needs of another become more important than your own. So I guess that truly successful relationships mean that both parties subscribe to this same line of thought. End result, a well balanced love affair.
15) Late night phone conversations:
Remember when you first started out in your relationship and you’d get all excited when your phone would ring because you knew who would be on the other end? How many of you have played that game late at night after you’d been talking for hours? You know the game, right? No, you hang up,no, you hang up. Ok, lets hang up together. We’ve all played that game at least once in our lives haven’t we?
16) The anticipation of seeing that special someone again:
Getting dressed for school or work and knowing that you’ll see the person that makes your heart beat faster brings a smile to your face. You simply cannot wait to see their smiling face again and hopefully, just hopefully they’ll brush up against you or touch your hand.
17) The glow that you exude when you’re in love:
Isn’t it amazing that your friends know when you’re in love or have special feelings for someone? It’s all in the smile. You cannot hide it, love makes not smiling impossible. Even when you don’t know it you’ve got this silly little smile on your face and your mind is in a different place, a happy place. Smiling during these great times is akin to glowing. Everyone knows you’re in love.
18) The possibility of getting married:
Yep, I said it. I think all relationships begin with the thought that he/she may be the one to permanently take us off the market. Is he/she that person? We’ll never know unless we try, right?
19) Having someone to be silly with:
Ever notice how being in love brings out the silliness in us all? People whom are thought of as always deadly serious can surprise you when they are in love. There is nothing more enchanting than to discover that the grizzle bear of a man you met is actually a puppy at heart.
20) Getting recognized as the significant other:
Hi, aren’t you so-and-so’s girlfriend? Everyone wants a label in life and women really enjoy it, particularly when its a guy that they really like and wasn’t sure how he really felt about them. This all goes out the window as soon as you’re at an outing and someone identifies you as his girlfriend. It’s even more exciting when that someone is his mother, father or someone very close to him.
Everyone likes surprises, even if we profess that we don’t. There is nothing like receiving a small token of appreciation that not only did you not ask for, but you didn’t expect to receive. It’s even equally satisfying when it’s a gesture of love. Roses are always a positive sign. If they’re sent to your work place, he gets even higher marks because he just made you the center of attention for all the co-workers that are unappreciated in their current relationships.
22) Getting to know someone:
Ever dated a person and discovered that they were entirely different than what you could have ever thought? Not in a bad way, but in a very good way. like finding out that a guy you thought was a player, really loved kids and expressed his plans for when he finally had children of his own? Or the guy that you thought was anti-social who was the life of the party within the confines of his close family and friends? Discovering the real person is exciting and fun, don’t you think?
23) Holding hands:
It’s funny how you ex boyfriend detested holding hands in the end. However, in the beginning he wanted to hold your hand everywhere you two went to assure that everyone knew you were his. This phenomenon occurs with some men over time, however there are still many who continue to do this long after the newness of the relationship wears off. Maybe your next one will be like this.
24) Anticipating that first kiss:
So the first date went great and now he’s driving you home. You and he chit chat about various topics as you determine exactly how much you have in common. The problem is that you’re in a fog? Why? Because your answers aren’t as sharp as you’d like. You simply cannot focus on the words you’re hearing. It’s ok, because his responses aren’t as sharp as he’d like as well.
In case you didn’t know it’s because you both are preoccupied with what may happen next. You’re wondering if he will kiss you good night and trying to determine if you should allow him to or not. Or you may be hoping that he does, and how you will feel if he doesn’t. Add to this, the thought that you think you shouldn’t have had that burger with the extra onions.
On the other hand, he’s trying to plan things out because as men we like to be under control in situations like this. He is wrestling with if he should try to kiss you or not. What is a man to do? Its a first date and he really enjoyed your company, however, if he moves too fast there may not be a second date. But then again, if he moves too slow there may not be a second date. Wow, talk about pressure!
You’re both thinking what if an attempt is made and it is awkward? This thought makes your hearts race just thinking about it, huh? We’ve all been there before and this event is second only to the first time you about to make love.
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