Hi, I’ve been waiting for you. I know how hard it is in relationships these days, but trust me there is a man out there for each and every one of you. As you already know my name is Anonymousmale1 which I’m sure you know is a pen name. However, I’m real and my past is too real. I’m a reformed womanizer, a liar and a cheat. I created this blog just for you to help you to identify men like my former self and assist you in your quest to locate the perfect man for you. I can only accomplish this task by arming you with as much real truthful information about men as humanly possible over the course of one year. (This post expires and ceases to exist on 6-Feb-09) Many of you have asked the question, who am I? My real name is unimportant, but I urge you to read the very first post on this blog, “My Epiphany-Seeking Redemption” it’ll explain everything for you, I promise. Thank you ladies for coming here and I promise not to let you down, every post will be real and I’ll answer any questions you may have on the subject of men. If you have a situation that you want to keep private, e-mail me at anonymousmalewv@gmail.com and I’ll answer it for you one on one. Again, thank you coming and I hope what I teach you assists you greatly.
P.S. Sometime during this blog when enough women show up, I’ll release a photo of me and at the end of the blogs existence I’ll reveal my real name. Maybe, we’ll see.
Posted by kordel on February 27, 2008 at 8:56 pm
hi..i just read you’re posting on craigslist..i don’t really know how to contact you so,i just tried it here..i’ve had my heart broken into pieces before too,and im starting to heal now and ready to move on and find a nice guy who won’t hurt me.
Posted by krystin on February 27, 2008 at 11:18 pm
Six months? Ugh. That doesn’t even include the time it takes to find someone decent enough to consider being intimate with. So my six months is quickly accumulating interest. Just promise me it won’t be lifelong
Thank you for sharing, albeit anonymously, some very vulnerable information, all in the name of helping others. Wouldn’t it be nice if we all made the same considerable efforts?
Peace,
K
Posted by me on March 7, 2008 at 3:35 am
Thank you for this blog. I am not a stupid girl by any stretch, and I spend a lot of time single and living, knowing someone will notice, and talking myself out of dating morons. Cuz I know better than to settle and I’ve over the drama of finding out my boyfriend is the idiot my instincts tried to tell me he was on the day we met. I appreciate your perspective and believe what you say is entirely true. I trust you’ve never been a 30 year old woman, and so you won’t mind that when I do find someone worth my attention, that I shave a little time off your 6 month rule. I will, however, in the spirit of negotiation, increase my 3 date rule.
Posted by Kate on March 9, 2008 at 7:32 am
Thanks for this blog! Like most females, I’m not stupid, but when I let myself get taken by a guy, I can get taken and with this one I let myself be completely naive. This is the first time I’ve ever felt my heart break and for a guy who didn’t earn it or deserve it by any stretch. My heart is truly broken right now and I can and will cry at anything right now and I’m a girl who lets her heart rule everything so it’s hard to focus on anything but him while trying to get over him and let go and try to believe that he’s a jerk and I sit and disect every action and word and it just leaves me confused b/c the only one who has he answers is the one who can’t/won’t give me them so I truly appreciate this.
Posted by Diane on March 22, 2008 at 2:22 pm
“Reformed Cheater” ?
Don’t believe it.
Most likely you’ve found another angle. The “I’ll show you all the bad stuff guys do so you won’t believe I’m a bad guy” angle.
My guess is:
1. You don’t have a steady job.
2, You’ll be asking for a loan inside of 6 months
Not buying it.
Once a con man – always a con man.
Posted by Lynda on March 23, 2008 at 1:22 pm
“Love the picture!”
Some of your blogs ring true, but do you?
Thanks.
Posted by Kay on March 23, 2008 at 7:21 pm
I have a request – write an article about where to meet nice men. Not just for the young chicks, but for us “mature” ladies too. And tell us how to move things forward when we do come across a nice looking man in Barnes and Noble, without looking desperate.
Posted by Marianna on April 18, 2008 at 5:27 pm
I think this is a great Blog and I printed up one of your posts and read it every day.
Look forward to more. I guess the one thing I would add is that besides informing women what they need to know, I would add that women should really try to figure out why they are attracted to the “wrong” type of guy. If we are not happy single people we can still get married but we wont be happy married people. That’s another good point to get across to these ladies.. They can take all your advice and use it but at the end of the day if they dont figure out internally what is wrong nothing will ever by right.
Peace…
Posted by Lara on April 24, 2008 at 6:34 pm
Please post a blog about your thoughts regarding an ex who desires to be close friends, without “benefits”, after the break-up. Thanks!
Posted by Beth on June 3, 2008 at 1:13 am
I happily stumbled upon your blog from your link on Successful Online Dating. My online dating experiences have been anything but successful. When I found out the last man I dated was now in jail I thought it best to step away from the “table” and go on a man diet. Not for good but, to take inventory on the reasons I was attracting less than stellar suitors. Your blog has really helped me take a long look at not just men but, myself too. I realize I can’t change a man but, I can change my way of thinking and communicating with men who would be potential mates. I look forward to reading your archived posts and the ones to come. Thanks!
Posted by Beth on June 13, 2008 at 12:57 am
I love this blog! I read several of your posts, thinking “Oh, I’ve been there” and “Oh, so that’s what I should have done differently.” Thanks for your thoughts. I’m looking forward to reading more. And thanks for adding me to your blogroll. I’m taking a blogging break for a little while, but hope to be back soon.
Posted by Summer on July 25, 2008 at 6:04 am
I was wondering whether you could please write a blog on how not to think the worst of every situation in a relationship.
Considering all you have said, seems there are two sorts of men, type 1: those who are cheats and liars, and type 2 those who are honest keepers. But can they mix? Can honest keepers muck up n still be honest keepers or should we employ the stuff up n your gone policy which some of your blogs suggest, and risk losing a keeped?
How do we tell which type we have without ruining our relationship, e.g. reading too deep into their behaviour -am i being crazy or may the honest ones be just working late or does that never happen???
How do we turn off the looking into his every behaviour and just trust him? I think my doubt in trust from some events may create further problems how do i stop this?
Also how does you wife know you wont resort back to old ways? How long will the honest you last for?
I hope you have some insight into this, i enjoy your blogs so much there are very helpful!
Keep up the excellent work!
Posted by Summer on July 27, 2008 at 11:49 pm
I just read a book which reminds me of these blogs, i got my hands on it via a male friend. While its targeted at men, i suppose females can enjoy it too, real insight into the pickup methods/games men play – both natural n learnt. Its called ‘the game’ by Neil Strauss, while i was reading it this weekend i couldn’t stop thinking about how similar the writing style n content is to yours anoyonmousmale1, check it out of the library girls
Posted by Tammy on January 16, 2009 at 2:38 am
I stumbled onto this website and find it to be a very good. I think no matter what we are always guarded… especially when you get burnt really bad! Personally, I think it is better just being single and happy! If a man shows you he is interested great make him chase you for a while, just to test what extent he will go to, to “win” you over but remeber always be nice!
Posted by Tammy on February 16, 2009 at 7:03 pm
To add to my last comment… I have learned pretty much every lesson that has been written about on this site. Now older, happily divorced and dating. I have a lot of self respect for myself and because of the lessons I’ve learned I can wait for a man to “prove himselve” however, I have yet to come across it. Seems “old school” is a thing of the past! I have had comments such as “good girl” or “bitch” but you know I just think we are worth more then just a “piece” and that’s where men I find confuse this as being to high on yourself. I find men are intimidated by me. Maybe I’m just in the wrong town but it seems traditional values are “valued” when a man is trying to marry you. Maybe I only see this now because I am not interested in the slightest to ever be married again!!! Really!!! I am not in any hurry or nor do I long to have to have a man in my life either but if and when I do I wrote a prayer I’d like to share with you. I whole heartedly believe in what I wrote and will not have a committed relationship until I find the man who fits it. Until then I will enjoy life!
Dear God,
Show me a man who is not a coward. One who has honour, integrity and can stand confidently. Show me a man who can be true to himself, have the courage to express himself and not be ashamed of who is, but be proud of who he has become! Show me a man who has absolute respect and is a true gentleman.
Show me these qualities… and I would gladly introduce him to a woman with the same and one that would gladly stand and walk beside him!!!
Amen
All the Best!
Posted by knowledgetoday on March 29, 2009 at 4:20 pm
I love your site. Keep it up !
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I’ve been reading through your site and I noticed that you’ve been able to address lots of important and immediate concerns regarding relationships—things I believe a lot of people would benefit from (for love or for fun
). Personally, I would say that I am a firm believer that communication plays a major role in keeping relationships strong and happy, I hope we’re sharing the same sentiment.
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