Yes, some men are terminally selfish and should be dismissed, but other men have never been in a relationship with someone who took the time to explain her needs to him. Women have a bad habit of becoming secretly resentful about behavior that they don’t like in their men, and expecting the guys to psychically know it. Rather than voicing their desires, they become passive-aggressive or just dump their boyfriends. These guys really don’t learn anything because they weren’t told about the problem.

So be assertive! And tell him exactly what you want. Within reason, he should listen. And if he doesn’t, then you can dump him.

Another thing I’d like women to think about- Why do you do nice or thoughtful things for your boyfriend or husband? Do you do it because you want to make him happy? Or because you expect something? Security, adoration, love? I say, if you are not doing it out of altruism or if it makes you feel resentful, stop doing it and focus on yourself.

First of all, any man who opens doors for women, will have come across many women who attack him for it, calling him a chauvanist pig. Its just not fair to expect that from men anymore – especially if you want it without having to voice that demand.

That brings me to the next point. Expecting a man to know how you feel without having to say so is incredibly self centered and infantile. What if he’s going through a rough patch himself? Remember the first rule about making a relationship work? TALK!!!

Bottom line:
There is no greater respect you can show someone than to treat them as your peer. That means, don’t expect anything from your partner that you’re not willing or able to do yourself.