Comments on: What “Baby Momma” Drama really says about your man

By: cheatbuster

cheatbuster — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 00:59:31 +0000

Your insights are great!..Nice post…
http://www.cheatbuster.wordpress.com (also added u to the blogroll)

By: seriouslymcmillan

seriouslymcmillan — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 23:48:00 +0000

What a great post! I have added you to my blogroll.

Seriously McMillan
http://www.shesoghetto.wordpress.com

By: Jessica

Jessica — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 20:05:59 +0000

I wish I had read this post 12 years ago. I believed the line of B.S. about the baby momma from high school getting pregnant on purpose, being crazy, only caring about money, and so on. I thought things would be different for me because we were older, married, had a planned pregnancy, etc. Now that I am in the same boat with her and we are both traveling in second class, he’s moved on to giving this line to the next dumb girl willing to believe that his baby mommas are crazy money-hungry bi*&hes. Thank you for sharing this info. Maybe it will save another woman from making the same mistakes, or at very least, from passing judgment on the baby momma!

By: C.SV.R.S.

C.SV.R.S. — Sun, 19 Apr 2009 20:24:15 +0000

I APPLAUD YOU!!!!MY SON FATHER IS ALL ABOUT SELF IF IT DO NOT WORK FOR HIM HE WILL NOT DEAL WITH IT. But the best thing my son got from him is How not to be a man OR FATHER LIKE HIM..My son is now 32 and try hard not to do things like him. HE DO NOT WANT KIDS MAY ONE DAY AND WHEN HE MAKE UP HIS MIND I FEEL HE WILL BE A VERY GOOD FATHER. I don’t talk bad ABOUT the man I have always told my son that he is the one to make up his mind when it came to him.The man and i had been together all our life feel like formthe age of 10.I DO NOT USE THE WORD FATHER BECAUSE HE’S NOT ONE.I DO NOT DEAL WITH HIM AT ALL NOW!!! BUT HE LOVE TO SAY HE IS A MAN OF GOD WHAT A LIE THAT IS. YOUR WIFE IS A BLESSING TO YOU AND YOUR KIDS!!! AND YOU ARE A BLESSING TO YOUR SON!!!AND HIS MOTHER!!!! YOUR SON MOTHER LOVE HIM BECAUSE SHE DID A GOOD AND CARING THING FOR HIM!!!

By: Krista

Krista — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 18:27:37 +0000

I can understand your point of view in the fact that if a dead beat dad doesn’t pay then yes their is most certainly baby mama drama. My fiance has baby mama drama, but he is not a dead beat dad. He pays a lot of child support and keeps insurance on his child. The mother gives us nothing but grief because she refused to get a job and mooches off her mother as well. So there is a flip side to baby mama drama.

By: Christi

Christi — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 23:42:10 +0000

Thanks for this

By: Ree

Ree — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 23:28:18 +0000

I hate to play devil’s advocate here, but I disagree with a comment you made. Specifically, “Very few men whom father children and then seperate from their wives or girlfriends experience this situation now called, Babies Mamma drama, if they at a minimal support the child financially.”

I am the fiancee of a man that has 5 baby momma’s (one was an ex wife). Don’t judge me just yet…..

We’re not talking about a deadbeat here—he makes well over six figures, he bought a 5000 sq ft home for his kids and he spends time with ALL of his kids 3 days per week (would be more but some issues exist).

I have interacted with all of the women many, many times. Here’s what I found—the real question is dead beat dad or gold digger? It becomes war when you’re NOT even close to a dead beat, but nothing is ENOUGH!! The 1500 p/month per child isn’t good enough, three days per week isn’t good enough (but they won’t allow me to pick up the kids—he does have to go to work and it would help him tremendously if i picked them up that way he could see them everyday).

Let’s just say that some women are bitter. His ex wife hates the fact that when she was with him, his business burned down down and they struggled for a couple of months. She feels like he still “owes” her for the comfort she provided during those times. And these are first hand conversations that I’ve had with her. I like to have both parties in the room!!

Anyway long story short, all of them aren’t resentful. I just wanted to point out that sometimes we date/marry people who really never had our best interest in the first place. And these people never change.

Now, the arrangement that you, your wife and ex have is the same situation my fiance grew up in. His mom’s ex-husband even lived with them for a couple of months while he was growing up.

Bottomline: this is typically the exception and not the norm

By: steve

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By: ~H

~H — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 23:41:21 +0000

So profound!!!! I wish you could speak to my ex husband! I applaud you!

By: D

Tue, 26 Aug 2008 17:48:39 +0000

Hi – I wanted to contact you directly, but I don’t see any links for that, so I guess leaving a comment is the next best thing.
This might sound silly, but I’d be really interested to get a man’s opinion on the difference (if there is one) between loving and being “in love”. I know, it’s a cliche…
I think there’s a difference, but I wonder if all the things I consider signs of being “in love” are … well, rubbish.
I know there’s a difference between the love for a friend and the love for your spouse, but where is the line between the two? What about having loved an ex, but now being “in love” with your spouse. Surely your feelings for the latter are more powerful, but how are they defined? What indicates “in love”?

Thank you.
-D