Comments on: How to keep men from using you. http://anonymousmale1.wordpress.com/2008/06/06/how-to-keep-men-from-using-you/ The things your father should have told you about men, had you asked. Wed, 11 Nov 2009 16:48:53 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Ultimate Dating Loser http://anonymousmale1.wordpress.com/2008/06/06/how-to-keep-men-from-using-you/#comment-158 Ultimate Dating Loser Fri, 06 Feb 2009 12:29:19 +0000 http://anonymousmale1.wordpress.com/?p=28#comment-158 These are great postings/articles....mostly because these are all things we women know already...However, with every new relationship we think by doing the exact same things we've always done we will get a different result. I keep a copy of "He's just not that into you" handy so I can use it as a reality check. I find that I am very impatient, sleep with guys too quickly and fall for a guy at a ridiculously fast pace. I create what is called "A One-Sided Contract". Expecting a certain reaction or action because I have performed some favor. I feel it is a form of manipulation that gets me nowhere. As with any fault/vice, relieving ourselves of these bad dating habits takes practice. And if you have a relapse every so often, don't beat yourself up over it...just move on wiser and more cognizant of what it is that you want. These are great postings/articles….mostly because these are all things we women know already…However, with every new relationship we think by doing the exact same things we’ve always done we will get a different result.
I keep a copy of “He’s just not that into you” handy so I can use it as a reality check.
I find that I am very impatient, sleep with guys too quickly and fall for a guy at a ridiculously fast pace. I create what is called “A One-Sided Contract”. Expecting a certain reaction or action because I have performed some favor. I feel it is a form of manipulation that gets me nowhere.
As with any fault/vice, relieving ourselves of these bad dating habits takes practice. And if you have a relapse every so often, don’t beat yourself up over it…just move on wiser and more cognizant of what it is that you want.

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]]> By: Summer http://anonymousmale1.wordpress.com/2008/06/06/how-to-keep-men-from-using-you/#comment-90 Summer Fri, 25 Jul 2008 03:12:42 +0000 http://anonymousmale1.wordpress.com/?p=28#comment-90 Thankyou anonymousmale1! Thankyou for your honesty. Thankyou for answering the questions i have been wondering about. Your brilliant writing style is calming and reasuring. I like how you state a situation, aid us in how to recognise it occuring, and then help us deal with what to do. It is greatly appreciated. I especially like the articles 'How to keep men from using you.' and 'How to get your man to tell you he cheated.' Wonderfully done! Sometimes i feel smart in my long term relationship, but 2 days ago i caught my man in a big lie which makes me feel like an conned idiot. Until now he has been perfect, we have known each other 8 years and been dating 1.5yrs. Only been one problem, his old friends who are girls didnt like me n did some pretty nasty things directly to me, he cut them as friends as a result, in that situation he was perfect. We basically 2 days ago we got home after movie n dinner at 9.30 n he said he had to be home (just moved back to his family home to save money, dont worry hes under 30 years hhh), then the next morning i had some really excitn news to tell him n was trying him on his phone all morning with no answer, eventually i rang his home phone, his mum said that hes not in his bed n that he had said he was going straight from mine to work? First flag, he said he was staying at home n having the day off the next day. As i was saying bye to his mum he rang me. He sounded like he had just woken up n said he didn hear his phone as he was alseep (he sleeps like a tank, i always wake up when either our phone rings he never does, so that could be legit), so i play dumb n say wher ru asleep? n he says 'im in bed at home' (lie) n i say 'really thats funny, i just spoke to your mum n she said ur not in ur room n thinks ur at work'. Pause. He realises hes caught n says yeh sorry your right im not at home, says he left mine n went to his mates n got pissed n stayed over. I said you have got to be joking and hung up. He calls back, i get really angry n blow my smoke sorry to say, hes very apologetic about lying, n i say you were cheating on me with someone werent u n he stays firm on no n is consistent in voicing a no to this for 2 days each time i bring it up. He picked me up from work with flowers. wrote a long detailed email of sorry etc n is apologetic about lying etc. Trust is broken, how many times could this have happened before. Other than i know everythings been perfect, tho this makes me think what else did he lie about, what else did i miss?? What am i supposed to do, is he lying again??? Is he cheating on me??? Does he really love me or is it all talk??? I am lost, do you have any advice or insight into this anonymousmale1??? Let me know what you think, my email is sgatti05@hotmail.com thankyou again! (sorry for the length, i type n think too fast hhh) Thankyou anonymousmale1!

Thankyou for your honesty. Thankyou for answering the questions i have been wondering about. Your brilliant writing style is calming and reasuring. I like how you state a situation, aid us in how to recognise it occuring, and then help us deal with what to do. It is greatly appreciated.

I especially like the articles ‘How to keep men from using you.’ and ‘How to get your man to tell you he cheated.’ Wonderfully done!

Sometimes i feel smart in my long term relationship, but 2 days ago i caught my man in a big lie which makes me feel like an conned idiot. Until now he has been perfect, we have known each other 8 years and been dating 1.5yrs. Only been one problem, his old friends who are girls didnt like me n did some pretty nasty things directly to me, he cut them as friends as a result, in that situation he was perfect. We basically 2 days ago we got home after movie n dinner at 9.30 n he said he had to be home (just moved back to his family home to save money, dont worry hes under 30 years hhh), then the next morning i had some really excitn news to tell him n was trying him on his phone all morning with no answer, eventually i rang his home phone, his mum said that hes not in his bed n that he had said he was going straight from mine to work? First flag, he said he was staying at home n having the day off the next day. As i was saying bye to his mum he rang me. He sounded like he had just woken up n said he didn hear his phone as he was alseep (he sleeps like a tank, i always wake up when either our phone rings he never does, so that could be legit), so i play dumb n say wher ru asleep? n he says ‘im in bed at home’ (lie) n i say ‘really thats funny, i just spoke to your mum n she said ur not in ur room n thinks ur at work’. Pause. He realises hes caught n says yeh sorry your right im not at home, says he left mine n went to his mates n got pissed n stayed over. I said you have got to be joking and hung up. He calls back, i get really angry n blow my smoke sorry to say, hes very apologetic about lying, n i say you were cheating on me with someone werent u n he stays firm on no n is consistent in voicing a no to this for 2 days each time i bring it up. He picked me up from work with flowers. wrote a long detailed email of sorry etc n is apologetic about lying etc. Trust is broken, how many times could this have happened before. Other than i know everythings been perfect, tho this makes me think what else did he lie about, what else did i miss?? What am i supposed to do, is he lying again??? Is he cheating on me??? Does he really love me or is it all talk??? I am lost, do you have any advice or insight into this anonymousmale1???

Let me know what you think, my email is sgatti05@hotmail.com

thankyou again!

(sorry for the length, i type n think too fast hhh)

]]> By: Melody http://anonymousmale1.wordpress.com/2008/06/06/how-to-keep-men-from-using-you/#comment-78 Melody Mon, 09 Jun 2008 15:02:31 +0000 http://anonymousmale1.wordpress.com/?p=28#comment-78 Men are such azzholes....I don't understand how they get caught in lies over and over again and still lie and lie. It simply amazes me that there are literally no good men left in this entire world. And if you happen to meet one that is decent you are so scorned by the past relationships that you don't even want to give the one that "appears" decent a chance. I am so fed up and tired of men who constantly lie and hurt you for the sake of saying they are a "Man." Needless to say I plan to be single for a very long time and just relish in the fact that GOD is teaching and showing me how and when to know better. Men are such azzholes….I don’t understand how they get caught in lies over and over again and still lie and lie. It simply amazes me that there are literally no good men left in this entire world. And if you happen to meet one that is decent you are so scorned by the past relationships that you don’t even want to give the one that “appears” decent a chance. I am so fed up and tired of men who constantly lie and hurt you for the sake of saying they are a “Man.” Needless to say I plan to be single for a very long time and just relish in the fact that GOD is teaching and showing me how and when to know better.

]]> By: rosa http://anonymousmale1.wordpress.com/2008/06/06/how-to-keep-men-from-using-you/#comment-76 rosa Sat, 07 Jun 2008 02:45:33 +0000 http://anonymousmale1.wordpress.com/?p=28#comment-76 i look forward to reading your post . i read everyone of them trying to be the best possible at understanding why men are the way they are lol ! i hope you continue wrighting thanks for your info i find it incredibly helpfull :) i look forward to reading your post . i read everyone of them trying to be the best possible at understanding why men are the way they are lol ! i hope you continue wrighting thanks for your info i find it incredibly helpfull :)

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