Having read your seven steps, I realised that I had followed these instinctively, once I dug and dug to find out what had been going on with him.

There was no choice for me and, despite the devastation (he’d only just asked me to marry him – why?). I would like to say that I felt no great satisfaction in executing my exit from his life in the manner you described. The pain of loving someone so much and being so deceived so badly has not lifted and I very much doubt he has or is or suffering in the way you describe. However, I live in hope but I’m not too proud of the kind of revenge I would like to inflict on him.

You shouldn’t have to be this brave when you weren’t the person that caused the agony. Do these men realise that they ruin lives? I will certainly never trust or love again because of him. ps I’m also broke – that should protect me from the next potential ‘git’ they might happen along. Yes, he took everything – my love, trust, confidence, security and self esteeem – humiliated of England.